I have beef with people who like to throw pity parties for themselves. I don't care. I will not buy into them and when someone tells me (of all people) that YOUR situation is worse than mine... It makes me want to slap the skin off your entire body and stick just your muscle-y, tendon-y body in a chemical bath and watch you burn.
I don't know what it's like to lose a parent. Hell, I still have all my grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, and I've only lost one cousin. I'm sorry for anyone who ever has to lose anyone in their life. It's terrible.
What I have witnessed, however, is my son completely blue from the lack of oxygen. I have seen him fight and struggle for one breath of air. I have seen him paler than snow. So pale to the point where I could almost see the blood flowing through his veins. I've seen him almost die four times.
This may be harsh for me to say, but I don't think your situation is worse. I have sympathy for you because it really is terrible to lose someone very close to you, but my son has a condition where he probably will not out live me. That's not normal. Losing a parent is. It happens. It's sad. I'm sorry.
When you're an adult and your parents die, life can go on. You are supposed to separate from your parents in life anyways.
When you're a parent, your child is your life.
My child is disabled. I'm hoping he won't be a child all his life, but due to developmental delays, he might. We don't know. But, basically, until he starts school, I can't REALLY get my adult life going. I don't have the time to date. I can only keep a part time job. I don't have the time for homework. I can barely do household chores because he needs so much attention.
In conclusion. when you say "My parents are dying of cancer, I had to quit school to take care of them. My situation is worse than yours.", make sure I'm not in the room or that it isn't on my f*cking status on Facebook.
I don't know what it's like to lose a parent. Hell, I still have all my grandparents, aunts, uncles, siblings, and I've only lost one cousin. I'm sorry for anyone who ever has to lose anyone in their life. It's terrible.
What I have witnessed, however, is my son completely blue from the lack of oxygen. I have seen him fight and struggle for one breath of air. I have seen him paler than snow. So pale to the point where I could almost see the blood flowing through his veins. I've seen him almost die four times.
This may be harsh for me to say, but I don't think your situation is worse. I have sympathy for you because it really is terrible to lose someone very close to you, but my son has a condition where he probably will not out live me. That's not normal. Losing a parent is. It happens. It's sad. I'm sorry.
When you're an adult and your parents die, life can go on. You are supposed to separate from your parents in life anyways.
When you're a parent, your child is your life.
My child is disabled. I'm hoping he won't be a child all his life, but due to developmental delays, he might. We don't know. But, basically, until he starts school, I can't REALLY get my adult life going. I don't have the time to date. I can only keep a part time job. I don't have the time for homework. I can barely do household chores because he needs so much attention.
In conclusion. when you say "My parents are dying of cancer, I had to quit school to take care of them. My situation is worse than yours.", make sure I'm not in the room or that it isn't on my f*cking status on Facebook.
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